Sunday, September 12, 2010

My Purpose

What is my purpose? I've been half joking with Eric and some friends lately about how I don't have a purpose anymore. It seems that the past almost 17 years my life and schedule has been dictated around Raquel's life and schedule and now, it seems it's coming to an slow grinding halt. Not once did I complain about taking her or her friends here or there, running around at the last minute because she needed something, making sure she was on time or where she was suppose to go, fulfilling every need pertaining to some sort or event or fact, I enjoyed it...I had a purpose.

Don't get me wrong, I know I have another daughter and 3 grandchildren, but they don't live with me and Meredith is busy fulfilling her purpose with 3 squirrely boys and the truth be told...I can only handle them in small doses. I truly love them but if my purpose was to go insane...then I'd spend more time with them. My husband half jokingly says that now my purpose is to tend to him. I know he trying to be funny, but he spent 31 years on this planet before he met me and he did quite well for himself. He doesn't need or want me to cater to him...except when he's sick and you know ladies, when that happens we need to alert the press.

But I digress...

So now that Meredith has her own family and although Raquel is not gone yet, she's pretty much doing for herself as far as tasks go and Eric is on auto pilot , I have to start thinking about where I fit in and how my relationships have shifted and change to accommodate this evolution. I now understand when people talk about the "empty nest" syndrome but it doesn't make it any easier. I have my hobbies, my 2 hours of work a day, my friends and my smarts and creativity...somehow, I'll figure it out...if menopause doesn't make my head explode first...

I'm just sayin'


  1. Awwwwwww, it's ok Honey...things will be fine. I am going through menopause too and it sucks eggs! I can't take hormone replacement therapy since I have had breast cancer so I am suffering through it!


  2. I have 2 out of the house and 2 in the house. AS long as cars break down I will have a purpose. LOL

    You will find your purpose. Keeping the bloggers happy is one.

  3. It may take a little time, but trust me you will find a another purpose to keep you busy. You may feel lost and a bit unraveled at both ends for awhile, but you will eventually adjust. Just hang in there. Hugs

  4. Read this with nerves and interest as my son is planning to go away to Uni next year and I'm already dreading it ((hugs for you Bunny)).

    I think you maybe just need a little time to miss her and be a bit sad, but when you're ready I did read something the other day about finding your life purpose.

    You're meant to write 100 times "my life purpose is..." and then just let yourself write whatever comes into your head. Apparently your subconscious takes over after a bit and you'll write something that will resonate with you. I'll let you know if I try it and have any revelations!

  5. Hi Bunny, just about every day I ask "what is my purpose?" I have the kids to take care of. A job to go to. The necessary to do and when I don't want to do that, I have my hobbies to keep me busy and happy. But purpose is so much more than that. I haven't quite figured it out yet. I think most of us are in the same boat. Wishing you all the best in the week ahead :) Tammy

  6. Since I have been on my own for many many years and never had any children, you might think that I don't 'get' it..but I think I do ..I spend most of my time alone..don't get me wrong, I really do enjoy it, but it would be nice to have people that were more companionable in my life..
    Your husband may be 'joking' but he's right-not tend to him in any Stepford wife way, but you two now have the freedom to go when ever and wherever..and that means a change in your relationship, in the sense that the care and attention devoted to your kids can be devoted to each other..and having fun undencumbered by any outside responsibility..
    Don't be afraid of the freedom..I knew when I retired from my job that there wouldn't be enough hours in the days for what I wanted to do..and I was right..
    Bunny, here's your chance, your time to do what before you only dreamt of doing..and don't tell me you didn't dream...have a wonderful rest of your life!♥

  7. oh sweetie I know how you feel. I've been wondering the same thing for the past 8 years, ever since Ryan went away to college. Yikes! I know you will figure it out. Menopause doesn't help either. Just wait until she has left for college...then it really gets lonely.
    Come visit me and we will do some damage figuring out what we are supposed to do with our lives. lol! :)

  8. My dear Bunny: I think your question is one that we all need to ask. I know that I ask God all the time, "What is my purpose? What do you want me to do?" It seems everyday, it is something new. I know what it is like to be with out children. My little boy (age 21), just doesn't seem to need me to do anything for him but his laundry. Like you, I have to trust God everyday, for His purpose. We do have to get together soon. I have so much to share with you about my life. You are always a breath of fresh air for me. Love you lots, Martha

  9. So glad you payed me a visit at my blog,so of course I had to pop over to meet you. Love your blog and going to follow. "No purpose"? I know what you mean! I'm a widow now for 8 years,children have their own busy lives though they visit often with the grandkids & Great-Grandbaby. Like you I can only take small doses tho I love them dearly. I work and stay busy and have good friends but there just seems to be something missing. For me maybe it's just a personal life that I don't seem to have anymore. I also read your post on 11:11 and yes I do believe that messages are often sent to us but that most people don't believe in that. I'm looking forward to reading your future post as well as your older ones. Glad I found you(or I guess you found me). Have a good one and visit when you can(I've been slacking on my blogging lately but hope to soon find the time to get back to it,it's one of my favorite things).


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